care - fej.org

Take care of everyone else first, and you take care of yourself the best.

This is the opposite of what the common "brainwash" is - take care of yourself first, then try to "help" others. The results of what people are taught (take care of self first) is that most goals, time and effort, are directed towards self (making money, recreation) with very little (if any) left over to "help" others. Worst of all is when people confuse goals and try to profit from "helping" others.

What goals, time and effort remain for people to try and "help" ends up being of a very narrow, short range, limited effort. Whether well intended or not, the small disorganized small bits of help can often conflict and compete with each other (especially for resources such as funding) and sometimes, in conjunction with each other or even solitarily, these bits of help might even work against the intended goals.

("Help" should be to resolve problems, not just shelter the homeless and feed the hungry for today, but end hunger and homelessness.)

But with the take care of everyone first principle, then you work with everyone (willing and able) to make sure everyone (no matter what) has shelter and food, then you also have that and can work on other things instead of having created problems that have to be resolved (hunger and homelessness).